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Life changing magic of affirmations  I don’t know exactly when it happened, but somewhere along the line, I decided to believe that I was unworthy.    To be honest, I could point to a few different times in my life when that happened, but truthfully we don’t need to go back there and rehash that stuff…unless you pour me some Wine, and then I’m an open book .  And when I get my hands on you, you will be too 😉    But in any case, there were these tricky times that led me to believe that I was unworthy.    I was unworthy of success, unworthy of truly being loved, unworthy of being heard, unworthy of being my true self, the list goes on…    And the only way I figured this out was because I kept finding myself in situations where I wondered how the heck I got there…it was like waking up from a bad dream where you settled for things that you would never imagine yourself settling for.    Like the things that you would condemn a friend for settling for.    Yep, I was like that.    I know, it’

Surrendering should be seen as a great strength and comes when we let go of trying to attain the impossible. Most of us were raised and live in a culture that emphasizes the ideals of independence and control. The general idea is that we are on our own and we don't need any help from anyone else, and if we are really successful it's because we are in complete control. However, true lasting success comes only with surrendering, which is the opposite of control. We cannot accomplish anything truly great on our own, without any help, and the idea that we can is an illusion that causes most of us a great deal of suffering. Surrender comes when we see that illusion and let go of trying to attain the impossible. Surrender can then be seen as a great strength rather than a weakness. This can apply during covid-19 pandemic.  Even small moments of surrender are powerful indicators of how different our lives could be if we would only let go. Our energy shifts we are in more positive stat

Building self confidence   As you can see this video was inspiring and I wanted to share this with you all. Self confidence is what we all seek and I give you some advice on how to do it.  Below I explain in a podcast what CBT cognitive behavioral therapy is and how to use it.    Below is a CBT approach that you can adapt, if needed: Begin by completing a chart (daily) with column headings: Situation , Self-Critical Thoughts , Consequences ( feelings & behaviors ), and Rational Responses. Here is an example of how you might fill this out: Situation :   Alice won when we played tennis, and (like always) she went on about how she's better than me. Self-Critical Thoughts :   She's right; I'm such a loser. I'm no good at tennis or anything. Consequences ( feelings & behaviors ):   I feel angry with myself and want to withdraw from the world. When I play tennis, all I can do is think about how bad I am at it, which makes me feel worse and play worse. Rational Respon