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Self-esteem isn’t something you’re born with or without—it’s something you build. Whether you’re struggling with self-doubt, perfectionism, or a lifetime of critical inner dialogue, improving your self-esteem is absolutely possible. It starts with understanding that self-esteem is rooted in how you treat yourself and the evidence you create through your own actions. Here’s how to cultivate genuine confidence from the inside out. Understand the Difference Between Self-Esteem and Conceit True self-esteem isn’t arrogance or thinking you’re better than others. It’s a realistic, compassionate assessment of your own worth. It means accepting your strengths and weaknesses without judgment, believing you deserve respect (including from yourself), and knowing your value isn’t dependent on external validation or achievement. Self-esteem is quiet confidence, not loud boasting. When you have healthy self-esteem, you can acknowledge your limitations without shame and celebrate your wins without nee...

Reclaiming Your Worth: Healing After Sexual Assault Content Warning: This article discusses sexual assault and trauma. Please prioritize your wellbeing and read only when you feel ready. If you're reading this, you may be searching for something that was never actually lost - your worth. Sexual assault can make you feel like your value has been taken, damaged, or diminished. But here's the truth that this entire article will explore: what happened to you does not define your worth. Your worth was never dependent on what was done to you, and it cannot be taken away by anyone's actions. This is a truth that might feel impossible to believe right now. That's okay. Healing doesn't require you to believe it immediately. It only asks that you remain open to the possibility. What This Article Is (And Isn't) This isn't a timeline for healing. There is no "should be over it by now." This isn't about toxic positivity or forcing yourself to feel strong be...

Learning experience from sexual abuse Have you ever been through abusive relationship or sexually abused by someone?  I can tell you I have more than once that’s right 3 times I been sexually assaulted by men and more than one partner abused me mentally and violently, so I do understand the hard road to feeling comfortable in your own skin. I went through court cases and trails it is not easy but I didn’t give up on my life I kept seeking that inner peace we all look for in our lives. I found that peace by acceptance you can’t change what happened but you change how you see it, Want to know how? Then let me explain it to you. The first thing to you need to do is say to yourself “I am loved through the universe, I am loved unconditionally”. Trust me I know it is hard to say that or believe that the universe loves you but it never intended you to be abused in the first place that person made that choice to do it and they will be punished regardless. The second thing we are going to d...

Being the best version podcast Choose to become the person you want to be Embracing who you should be not someone you are not Introduction Hey there I’m Lori your coach and I have this amazing story about how I became the person I am today. I struggled with social anxiety and judgement of others who were judging me as a person, I had to find a way to get past that until I fully embraced who I was not be someone I wasn’t meant to be. I hope you discover who you truly are embracing the true self within. Who do you want to become? It’s a pretty good question eh? Who do you choose to be? Positive or negative? Most of us want to be positive people but it can be pretty hard for some people who have never been shown how they can think, act and behave like a positive person, that’s why CBT therapy is important to teach. To be a “good person” is about finding your true self who you were created to be by the universe. To be this “good person” we have to change how we think and beha...

Finding safety and security  Right now you possibly struggling to get through whatever it is you faced with, I know what that feels like. I went through a lot of hard times from a tragic loss to broken relationships it never comes easy in life. It's like a huge wave you have to ride until it passes. I can tell you right now that you will get passed it by believing in yourself more, even when others think differently about you. My own siblings see that I'm the problem when it is themselves with issues. I go through times of pure frustration and struggle with it that's when I need spiritual path to help me get through it knowing a spiritual universal god loves me unconditionally even when people don't love me at all in this world. Having faith in something gives us hope that we will get through it. When we struggle with safety and security within us this is when we need to remember the universe has our backs, god is with us in this universe we are not alone, why do I say ...

Authentic self  Being your authentic self is so important stop being someone you are not! I know how hard it is to be a person that you are proud to be, and don't get me wrong we all do it. I know we are afraid of being this authentic thing that god or the universe created. it is challenging on a daily basis. So, how do we be our authentic truth? Well, I'm here to explain that embracing who you are is pure magic, why I say that is because who you are is the most amazing thing a person could ever see and be expressed. I have always been this rock chick within always authentic with my style and within I had something deeper than just the image it's how spiritual I was and why I had faith in the universe. Every experience I've had with my authentic side I explored music and became well known for a song a created 12 years ago which I am proud of. I loved the rock chick fashion and dark makeup that makes my blue/green eyes pop out at you, I even created content for coach...

How to love yourself today  The Six Steps Of Inner Bonding: 1. Be willing to feel pain and take responsibility for your feelings. All feelings are informational, letting us know whether we're loving ourselves or abandoning ourselves, or if others are being loving or controlling. Step one is mindfully following your breath either in meditative state or just simply breathe to get present in your body, and compassionately embracing all feelings. I recommend playing guided meditation feelings chapter 1 on YouTube. It's about moving towards your feelings rather than avoiding them with various forms of self-abandonment, such as staying focused in your head, judging yourself, turning to addictions to numb out, or making someone else responsible for your feelings which we shouldn't make others responsible.  2. Move into the intent to learn. In inner bonding, there are only two possible intentions in any given moment: To protect against pain, avoiding responsibili...

Self love & imperfection  Before we reach our potential we have to first believe we have some and that we’re worthy of it and this can be a massive hurdle if we struggle to love ourselves. That's why Gala Darling created radical self love her book is sold in local nz stores. It’s an issue for so many and one we don’t often talk about. I used to find it hard to love myself. I would constantly focus on the things I didn’t have and what was wrong with me, always overlooking the things that were good about my life and about me as a person. I never felt good enough and even after trying to make my life as good as possible I still felt like I was acting in a play and would get found out as not being as good as people seemed to think including siblings. The perfectionism was causing more harm than I thought which lead me to not love myself enough. This lack of confidence plus my ability to focus on the negatives, not the positives, would hold me back. I would look at other people ...