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  THE TRAUMA IS NOT THE END, IT’S THE BEGINNING It turns out that trauma in our lives, in whatever form it takes, isn’t actually the thing that makes us “stronger”. All those inspirational quotes with cheesy sunsets about enduring adversity and “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” they all kind of mislead you into thinking that just enduring some form of hardship is enough to steel yourself against future hardship. That’s not entirely true. It’s what comes  after  the trauma that really matters. It’s not the survival of trauma that makes you stronger, it’s the work you put in as a result of the trauma that makes you stronger. Traumatic experiences shake us to the core. They make us question our fundamental beliefs about the world and our place in it. They make us question the degree of benevolence and kindness and predictability in the world, and of the people around us. Some traumas serve as stark reminders of our mortality—something most of us don’t want to think...

 How does transformation happen?  Transformation happens by something that happens to you in life. I’m a living example that has experienced two traumatic events of suicides and abuse and you can overcome them with a different mindset and behaviour. This is why I use cognitive behavioural therapy because I was able to see it in a different perspective than I once did. That means my mindset has changed for the better. Knowledge plus experience makes you stronger equals transformation. Happiness depends on you.  Reflection points  Let’s take a moment and look at the emotionally charged event that happened to you recently. It may be something pleasant or something negative.  How did this event make you feel? Name the emotions. What did this event highlight about you as a person, your values, needs, wants, desires.  What did this event highlight about your character? How did this event change or influence you as a person?  You can this exercise what transf...

 Cope with depression  You can take steps to cope with and navigate depression. Small changes to your daily routine, diet, and lifestyle habits can all positively affect you. Depression can drain your energy, leaving you feeling empty and fatigued. This can make it difficult to muster the strength or desire to get treatment. Small lifestyle changes may help you manage these feelings. I know from experience.  What helps people cope with depression? If a person feels sustained, intense feelings of sadness or loss of interest in activities, they may have clinical depression. People also refer to this condition as  major depressive disorder . But there are small steps you can take to help you gain more agency in your life and improve your sense of well-being. Read on to learn how to incorporate these strategies in a way that makes sense for you. 1. Meet yourself where you are Depression affects  millions of people , including some in your life. You may not realize t...

   It seems like we are surrounded by negativity  With overwhelming access to information and a constant bombardment of details surrounding the most of us up to the minute of tragedy the likes of suicide. It is easy to get stuck in a negative space.  This is not a healthy or helpful place to live. This is not about acting from a place of denial, It is about learning how to deal with hard things from a healthier perspective, one that is based on facts and wisdom, not on confusion and fear. I know from my own experience of suicide losses I’ve had. So, let’s look at techniques as strategies. Techniques and Strategies For Freedom and Empowerment I’ve built these strategies, these techniques and these tools that still allow me to function effectively in the world, they allow me to be a realist, they allow me to be in touch and in connection with what is going on. But these tools and strategies that I'm going to share with you in this blog also allow me to be free. They al...