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Overcoming tragedy of suicide

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Overcoming tragedy of suicide  I know how it feels to lose a person through suicide, it never the easiest experience. I’ve lost two brother's to suicide and it had a big impact on my life. No one knows what it truly feels to go through trauma at a young age of 9 when my youngest brother took his life in 1995, they didn't talk about suicide or even get kids therapy to get through their loss instead my mother lied to me didn't tell me until I was sixteen which made me resent the family. She regrets that now. So, I spent years trying to accept my loss instead at the age of 28 my oldest brother took his life by using a gun to his head blowing his brain's and it is no laughing joke. Trust me it was hard. I struggled as my father had a stroke few days before it happened it didn't feel real at all, felt a lot of guilt but we shouldn't be feeling guilty of the person's death as they chose to end their life. So how do we overcome the guilt and sadness? By purely acce

The power of habit

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We definitely creatures of habit, whether we like it or not. Even though the inertia of habit's often keeps us in our comfort zone instead of reaching our goal's, habits per say are not all bad. In fact, life would be boring without habits. If all our actions were at the conscious level, we would be effectively paralyzed by the sheer mass of information we would have to process. Would accomplish little if we don't try to have new habits to form regularly. Habit's allows us to perform thousands of tasks and routine's without create mental overload. It is important to have a morning routine in order to have a purpose to wake up to everyday. The question you ask yourself is this: Am I willing to develop good habits or am I content to creating bad ones? No matter how uncomfortable your circumstances are you are a role model for others in your life.  You probably have very strong habits and connections that you take for granted each day. For example, your brain is probab

Knowing the tools

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Knowing the tools that work for you Having tools that will help you is important. There was something about Gala Darling that attracts my attention, she is bold bright and breath of fresh air.  I went through negative experience over the weekend my past found me and it was overwhelming, I went through post traumatic stress this is a disorder most people suffer from in today's world. No one likes the experience of post traumatic stress I couldn't believe that it was happening to me now but I am lucky to know the tools Gala Darling talks about in wonderland session #17 it really made me think about how can I help others face it with these tools because most counsellors don't teach these tools or the person refuses to do something to help themselves. I went through mental health system and know all they do is pop pills to make it go away. Not really dealing with the root issue that is why it is important to deal with root causes early. If you love yourself enough you would see

Laser thinking

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Laser thinking is very much like what positive thinking is and can be highly effective if you use correctly on daily basis. Let's say you have a goal your mind Set on it, you would do anything to make it happen if you really wanted it right? With laser thinking it stuck on this goal and you Chase it no matter how hard it was but you managed to get that goal, with that is determined mindset. Without this "laser thinking" positive mindset we wouldn't achieved the goal and that is how we should be in order to make dream come true, if you passionate enough that laser in your mind will bring the goal to life! If you struggle to have a positive mindset then you need to get out of the negative place within and start that happiness you can find by doing simple tasks to feel joy within yourself. Remember this is important mindset to have each day if you are not keen to find that joy you won't achieve that goal, so get that laser in your mind going start with one thing only

Self-esteem and appearance

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Once upon a time, I was a thin young woman who had a lot going for her until one day she came across a negative situation that destroyed her mental state. A man took photos of me when it did not consent, I had no idea had to find out the hard way. However, I rose above it through life coaching. Over the years I had this silly belief that had to be like so call model even though I did some when I was young, but I never really had an eating disorder which was good but some women do. I rarely in 20's felt comfortable in my own body, despite that I was only size 14-12 NZ size. When we're unhappy with our bodies and the way we look, we're less likely to go out and enjoy our lives. We can become obsessive about how we look and endlessly beating ourselves up for eating some foods like junk fried stuff, which only adds another level of pressure and anxiety to our lives. When we become obsessive about how we look may possibly be a symptom of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) which is