Lifesuccessnz personal development

  For some people learning how to improve themselves every day is exciting and motivating. For others, this type of ongoing self-improvement might feel overwhelming and daunting.  Self-improvement is a personal journey that requires a willingness to experience discomfort. The desire to improve yourself can come on when you’re stuck in a rut or are unsatisfied with your current way of living. Cognitive behavioural therapy helps in this area. Feeling frozen in the same place and like nothing changes can be frustrating.  If this feels relatable, taking action is the first step toward improved self-development. Personal growth requires both consistency and stretching past what you know. Your path may not be linear, but every step you take is part of becoming the best version of yourself. To learn how to be better, it helps to have a toolbox of specific exercises you can practice to improve your habits. The following list includes tangible self-improvement techniques you can s...

Since relationships are normally two-sided, you can be responsible only for your part. But relating to someone else also brings a merging, so it is not easy to separate out what was. A leader follows one general rule that is when things are going well, praise the other person; when things are not going well be responsible for changing them. If you wait for another person to change things, or themselves then you are fooling yourself. You might end up waiting a long time for the person to change, you must arrive at self-sufficiency which is the realization that you are enough don't be someone you are not. You never need another person to complete you. Once this truly sinks in, you will stop asking others to change in order for you to feel better. It's not their responsibility; it doesn't show how much they care, and no matter how they so call try you might end up feeling bad anyways. Some people can be narcissistic so be careful. You reverse the belief that relationships are...

Gaining control from negative events Have you ever heard someone say "I've lost control of my life"? There have been times where I've said to myself "man I can't get in control of myself"! What I'm really saying is I'm no longer in control of my events in my life which means I am reacting to these situations. Being out of control is a horrible feeling but we can feel like we got control by accepting it. To be honest what person has almost absolute total control over the negative events in his or her professional and personal environment? Everything we experience is an event. So…. are you going to take more control by changing how you respond to it? What is important is not that there are uncontrollable events in our lives, but how we respond to them. Often the most realistic response is to adapt . Unless you want to stress yourself out that's the other option. To describe how a person can feel inside when faced with events they can't cont...

Learning experience from sexual abuse Have you ever been through abusive relationship or sexually abused by someone?  I can tell you I have more than once that’s right 3 times I been sexually assaulted by men and more than one partner abused me mentally and violently, so I do understand the hard road to feeling comfortable in your own skin. I went through court cases and trails it is not easy but I didn’t give up on my life I kept seeking that inner peace we all look for in our lives. I found that peace by acceptance you can’t change what happened but you change how you see it, Want to know how? Then let me explain it to you. The first thing to you need to do is say to yourself “I am loved through the universe, I am loved unconditionally”. Trust me I know it is hard to say that or believe that the universe loves you but it never intended you to be abused in the first place that person made that choice to do it and they will be punished regardless. The second thing we are going to d...

Handling abuse and rise above it I been abused by men and other people. However… no one is perfect but knowing how to handle it is important. I was sexually abused and the guy got community sentence but it doesn’t stop the person from harassing & stalking me. I  will rise above the negative behaviour. Don’t be afraid to be strong and never let anyone destroy your inner child within. A book I highly recommend is Rising strong by Brene' Brown it worth reading. However, it d oesn't matter if it sexual or violent still no form of abuse is not okay! As a life coach I have learned a lot from my own experience's. Why stay to be used & abused by people? do you know the signs? If not then you need to learn them. Take responsibility for yourself today! You don't have to stay in the situation and you can walk away, leave the person to deal with their issues on their own, I been there with many people even my own family abuse each other and sexual relationships g...

Being the best version podcast Choose to become the person you want to be Embracing who you should be not someone you are not Introduction Hey there I’m Lori your coach and I have this amazing story about how I became the person I am today. I struggled with social anxiety and judgement of others who were judging me as a person, I had to find a way to get past that until I fully embraced who I was not be someone I wasn’t meant to be. I hope you discover who you truly are embracing the true self within. Who do you want to become? It’s a pretty good question eh? Who do you choose to be? Positive or negative? Most of us want to be positive people but it can be pretty hard for some people who have never been shown how they can think, act and behave like a positive person, that’s why CBT therapy is important to teach. To be a “good person” is about finding your true self who you were created to be by the universe. To be this “good person” we have to change how we think and beha...

Overcoming fear HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR 10 TIPS TO MASTER YOUR PSYCHOLOGY AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS  Posted by:  Lori from Lifesuccessnz  This Book Resia lience toolkit Dr Alia Bojiloya  It is a great and powerful road trip that is called a journey.  it's worth the mission because if you can't learn something due to your fear then we are stuck.  Travel comfortably with Overcoming fear with positivity Fear is not helpful you'll never go anywhere or do anything worthwhile as it is a lesson we all need to grow. This is the same with anxiety so we need to have a fight or flight mode. I know the battle we have with anxiety and fear based feelings it is easy to get that far with our fears and gets in the way of things. My idea is to relax as much as we can try not to let our anxiety take full control. You can use apps to help with this area. I meditate often which is helpful for anxiety daily. Only you have that control and that is the key to change the respon...