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Learning experience from sexual abuse Have you ever been through abusive relationship or sexually abused by someone?  I can tell you I have more than once that’s right 3 times I been sexually assaulted by men and more than one partner abused me mentally and violently, so I do understand the hard road to feeling comfortable in your own skin. I went through court cases and trails it is not easy but I didn’t give up on my life I kept seeking that inner peace we all look for in our lives. I found that peace by acceptance you can’t change what happened but you change how you see it, Want to know how? Then let me explain it to you. The first thing to you need to do is say to yourself “I am loved through the universe, I am loved unconditionally”. Trust me I know it is hard to say that or believe that the universe loves you but it never intended you to be abused in the first place that person made that choice to do it and they will be punished regardless. The second thing we are going to d...

Handling abuse and rise above it I been abused by men and other people. However… no one is perfect but knowing how to handle it is important. I was sexually abused and the guy got community sentence but it doesn’t stop the person from harassing & stalking me. I  will rise above the negative behaviour. Don’t be afraid to be strong and never let anyone destroy your inner child within. A book I highly recommend is Rising strong by Brene' Brown it worth reading. However, it d oesn't matter if it sexual or violent still no form of abuse is not okay! As a life coach I have learned a lot from my own experience's. Why stay to be used & abused by people? do you know the signs? If not then you need to learn them. Take responsibility for yourself today! You don't have to stay in the situation and you can walk away, leave the person to deal with their issues on their own, I been there with many people even my own family abuse each other and sexual relationships g...

Overcoming negative past relationships    the past my world was crashing down around me. And I asked myself how could I possibly live without them? What’s wrong with me? Am I going to be forever alone? These were the thoughts racing through my mind within the first five minutes after the breakup. I realized just how invested I was in this person and that I had to learn how to live on my own again.   After going on an emotional rampage for a few days, I took a much-needed self care Moment and finally I asked myself, “What’s next?” That’s when I decided negative thoughts and petty post-relationship moves weren’t going to consume me, I would  not  be one of those people that stalks their ex while eating too much ice cream. Here’s how I managed to get through a really rough breakup.  Accept that you can’t change your past Remember that your past is always there, but you can’t change it (unless you somehow have a Time Machine) Why dwell on something that’s fixed...

 Overcoming a breakup in a relationship  It may take time to fully process the end of a romantic relationship. Identifying what you want from a future relationship and acknowledging the importance of your past. One of the  key steps in helping you move forward. Most people would agree you generally can’t help who you fall in love with. But in some circumstances, you might wish that weren’t the case. Specially when you have come out of abusive relationship. Maybe you love someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you.  The longing that accompanies one-sided love can affect emotional well-being and cause a lot of discomfort. This is not a way to be either. I know from experience.  Or perhaps you love someone who continually demonstrates they don’t have your best interests at heart. Maybe you and a partner love each other intensely but have too many differences to sustain a lasting partnership. Regardless of the situation, love is a complicated emotion. And even ...

Abuse in any form is not okay at all! I myself was a victim of mental abuse because of one person who can't let me go after 3 years and that was emotionally draining. When someone posts negative comments for the world to see it's really about their character they are the one with the problem not you! You must remember that you are not to be blamed for their abuse ignore every message or comments that person makes.  Tips for this situation Ignore the comments even if they hurt you emotionally  If you have proof that it the person you know please contact the police as soon as possible If you have a court order against the person who made that comment or contact please go to the police it breach of court order is very serious crime.  I know it emotionally hard to forgive but it will release resentment. If you are suicidal because of the bullying online please talk to someone about the situation. If you feel ashamed it not your fault please remember that!...

I myself have been through abusive relationships and my mother went through abuse herself by two husband's who didn't treat her the way she should of been. I guess I was living her experience so I have a good understanding of how it felt.  I know what it feels like to have a court order on someone who won't let you move on with life.  We need to stop being someone we are not and that is why I use self help therapy to help my mind not think if the negativity of the situation, I know that a person who you have a court order against can't leave you alone is scary! Which causes anxiety I know from my own experience with online bullying. I want to teach you a skill you can use during the experience CBT congitive behavioral therapy change your perception of the situation.  1. Thoughts - are they positive or negative? 2. Attitude - how you respond to the situation 3. Behavior - what is your behavior positive or negative response do you have an attitude how you speak to others,...