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  Overcoming Fear of the Unknown: 5 CBT Tools for When You Can’t See What’s Ahead A new job. A move. A medical result you’re waiting on. A relationship that’s changing shape. Whatever the situation, the feeling is familiar: a tight chest, a racing mind, and a strong urge to know exactly how it will turn out before you take another step. That’s fear of the unknown, and it’s one of the most common sources of anxiety there is. The good news is that CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) offers practical, well-tested tools for it. You don’t have to eliminate uncertainty. You just have to change how your mind responds to it. Why the unknown feels so threatening Your brain is a prediction machine. When it can’t predict what’s next, it fills the gap, and it tends to fill it with worst-case scenarios. This is a survival instinct: assuming danger was safer than assuming safety. CBT starts from a simple idea: it isn’t the situation itself that drives your distress, but your thoughts about it. “...

 We all go through these fears of being hurt that is where triggers of trauma come up and think we are failures because we can’t seem to get over it. But, let me tell you that we are not failures at all. It just takes time to learn and grow from these experiences to become a better person. Why? Because it is a process of overcoming these feelings of fear. We can overcome it if we choose to. When other people hurt us we got to keep holding our head up high and keep going forward!  It is not ok to be in a toxic environment with someone who lets you down and not support you. If they label you as something you are not then you should not be around them or even bother trying to be nice to them if they are not bothered to be sorry for it. Be kind to yourself and be mindful of the negative thoughts that come up for you. Learn ways to handle difficult people that are toxic. Check out the video below 👇  You can download this free from therapist aid website to help you face your f...

  Thoughts of suicide can take many forms. No matter what you’re going through, help and support are available. Find away out of the dark hole. What are suicidal thoughts? Active thoughts of  suicide  involve clear and specific thoughts about suicide or plans to take your own life. I know from my own experience. Suicidal thoughts can also take a less-defined shape. Maybe you don’t have an actual plan to die, but you:  have frequent thoughts about death and dying have spent time thinking about ways to die believe you don’t deserve to keep living wish you could simply stop living Why seeking support can be challenging  Whether they’re passive or active, persistent thoughts about suicide and death can leave you feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, and unsure where to turn for support.  I have links for New Zealand people. Plus, talking about these thoughts can be tough. You may not know how to start sharing them with others.  But you might also worry about thei...

  WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF? HOW YOUR BRAIN CREATES FEAR – AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT Posted by: Lori from Lifesuccessnz  What makes us afraid? Snakes, the dark, rejection, love, spiders, the unknown, public speaking, flying, storms, failure — though the reasons are varied, we are all hardwired to feel fear. Or are we? What about people who never seem to be afraid? Or the small percentage of the population that literally cannot feel fear? Why are there kids completely unafraid of taking risks and then others who seem afraid of everything? Fear’s purpose is to keep us from harm, but what if it holds us back from what we really want? THE BIOLOGY OF FEAR First, some facts: There is no single fear switch for humans; responding to threats involves multiple areas of the brain. We’re not 100% how, but scientists have found the amygdala—almond-shaped bundles of neurons buried deep in the brain, just above the brain stem—central to the process. “When you sense something potentially dangerous,...