Lifesuccessnz personal development

Gaining control from negative events Have you ever heard someone say "I've lost control of my life"? There have been times where I've said to myself "man I can't get in control of myself"! What I'm really saying is I'm no longer in control of my events in my life which means I am reacting to these situations. Being out of control is a horrible feeling but we can feel like we got control by accepting it. To be honest what person has almost absolute total control over the negative events in his or her professional and personal environment? Everything we experience is an event. So…. are you going to take more control by changing how you respond to it? What is important is not that there are uncontrollable events in our lives, but how we respond to them. Often the most realistic response is to adapt . Unless you want to stress yourself out that's the other option. To describe how a person can feel inside when faced with events they can't cont...

Handling abuse and rise above it I been abused by men and other people. However… no one is perfect but knowing how to handle it is important. I was sexually abused and the guy got community sentence but it doesn’t stop the person from harassing & stalking me. I  will rise above the negative behaviour. Don’t be afraid to be strong and never let anyone destroy your inner child within. A book I highly recommend is Rising strong by Brene' Brown it worth reading. However, it d oesn't matter if it sexual or violent still no form of abuse is not okay! As a life coach I have learned a lot from my own experience's. Why stay to be used & abused by people? do you know the signs? If not then you need to learn them. Take responsibility for yourself today! You don't have to stay in the situation and you can walk away, leave the person to deal with their issues on their own, I been there with many people even my own family abuse each other and sexual relationships g...

Overcoming fear HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR 10 TIPS TO MASTER YOUR PSYCHOLOGY AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS  Posted by:  Lori from Lifesuccessnz  This Book Resia lience toolkit Dr Alia Bojiloya  It is a great and powerful road trip that is called a journey.  it's worth the mission because if you can't learn something due to your fear then we are stuck.  Travel comfortably with Overcoming fear with positivity Fear is not helpful you'll never go anywhere or do anything worthwhile as it is a lesson we all need to grow. This is the same with anxiety so we need to have a fight or flight mode. I know the battle we have with anxiety and fear based feelings it is easy to get that far with our fears and gets in the way of things. My idea is to relax as much as we can try not to let our anxiety take full control. You can use apps to help with this area. I meditate often which is helpful for anxiety daily. Only you have that control and that is the key to change the respon...

Finding safety and security  Right now you possibly struggling to get through whatever it is you faced with, I know what that feels like. I went through a lot of hard times from a tragic loss to broken relationships it never comes easy in life. It's like a huge wave you have to ride until it passes. I can tell you right now that you will get passed it by believing in yourself more, even when others think differently about you. My own siblings see that I'm the problem when it is themselves with issues. I go through times of pure frustration and struggle with it that's when I need spiritual path to help me get through it knowing a spiritual universal god loves me unconditionally even when people don't love me at all in this world. Having faith in something gives us hope that we will get through it. When we struggle with safety and security within us this is when we need to remember the universe has our backs, god is with us in this universe we are not alone, why do I say ...

Overcoming Depression My story  I suffered from depression for many years and it no joke either,  depression is a serious health issue we all face.  Both of my brother’s committed suicide because they didn’t know a way through it. They were unhappy with their lives.  But there is no excuse for committing suicide you end up hurting more people than you think. I remember my brother leaving a note when he  shot himself in the head with a gun and it was tragic. People still ask  me how did I hold up like I do now? Simple! You just face it with courage. I saw the light of the universe there is a way to happiness and peace,  each experience teaches us something important so we can grow from it.  In my case my brother’s deaths showed me that I can be a better person be strong for myself within loving my inner child daily. You too can love yourself if you let yourself do that,  you are apart of this universe God has something planned for u...

Finding resilience   A  lot of us humans are afraid of death, which is common. We need to find a way to think differently about it, so how do we do that? Well..... By changing how you think it is as simple as that my friend. I've had tragic loss of a loved one by suicide not once but twice in my life and that can be hard to deal with. At a young age  I faced older brother’s death and in my 20’s I had to face after my dad had a stroke and that was hard. I managed to change how I see and believe. My belief  has to be in a positive place as much as I can as well as being open minded. But, it took a lot for me to understand why I was afraid of death as I was anxious about being suicidal myself so i took the step to make a change. So here are the tools. What got me thinking was why am I so afraid of death? This why journaling helps. Changing how we think about our loss is recognising your negative thoughts about the situation of that loss, are you over  catastro...

 How to turn your biggest fear onto your greatest power!  We need to look at it in a different light 💡 because the more we see what our fears are we can find the strength and courage to overcome them. I’ve done this many times myself and I have faced so many negative experiences in my life from sexual assaults to physical and mental abuse from ex partners. I can tell you I had the courage to face my ex in the court room more than once to get justice. I think you can face your fears as well. So, let’s dive in!  Fear of failure , fear of rejection  or  fear that we’re just not enough – fear is a common current that runs through all of our lives. And if we let it, fear can keep us locked up in the prison of the comfortable and predictable, which prevents us from reaching our true potential.  Living in fear  causes a double conundrum where you’re unfulfilled with the status quo yet afraid to pursue anything better.  But I also understand that Covid-1...