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Overcoming tragedy of suicide  I know how it feels to lose a person through suicide, it never the easiest experience. I’ve lost two brother's to suicide and it had a big impact on my life. No one knows what it truly feels to go through trauma at a young age of 9 when my youngest brother took his life in 1995, they didn't talk about suicide or even get kids therapy to get through their loss instead my mother didn’t know how to handle it or tell a child the truth. She didn't tell me until I was sixteen which made me struggle with depression. She regrets and now understands suicide. So, I spent years trying to accept my loss.   At the age of 28 my oldest brother took his life by using a gun to his head blowing his brain's. Trust me it was hard.  I struggled as my father had a stroke few days before it happened it didn't feel real at all, felt a lot of guilt but we shouldn't be feeling guilty of the person's death as they chose to end their life. So how do we ov...

You don’t experience the world directly. You experience it through a lens—a filter composed of your beliefs, assumptions, and mental models. This lens is your belief window, and understanding it might be one of the most transformative realizations you ever have. What Is a Belief Window? Your belief window is the collection of beliefs, values, and assumptions through which you interpret all incoming information. It’s not the world itself, but your interpretation of it. Two people can witness the exact same event and see something completely different because they’re viewing it through different belief windows. Think of it like a literal window. The glass might be clean or smudged, tinted or clear. The frame might focus your view on certain areas while obscuring others. What you see depends not just on what’s outside, but on the quality and orientation of the window itself. Your belief window includes everything from small assumptions (“people who disagree with me are uninformed”) to fo...

Laser Thinking: The Art of Focused Problem-Solving In a world of endless distractions and competing priorities, the ability to think with precision and purpose has become a superpower. Welcome to “laser thinking”—a cognitive approach that cuts through the noise in on what truly matters. What Is Laser Thinking? Laser thinking is the practice of concentrating your mental energy with intense focus on a single problem, question, or goal. Like a laser beam that amplifies light into a powerful, narrow beam, laser thinking amplifies your cognitive resources to penetrate deeply into complex challenges. It’s the opposite of scattered thinking. Instead of between multiple concerns or getting lost in tangential details, laser thinking demands that you define your target with surgical precision and then direct all your intellectual firepower toward it. Why Traditional Thinking Falls Short Our default mode of thinking is diffuse. We jump from email to messages to news feeds to work projects, never ...

Self-esteem isn’t something you’re born with or without—it’s something you build. Whether you’re struggling with self-doubt, perfectionism, or a lifetime of critical inner dialogue, improving your self-esteem is absolutely possible. It starts with understanding that self-esteem is rooted in how you treat yourself and the evidence you create through your own actions. Here’s how to cultivate genuine confidence from the inside out. Understand the Difference Between Self-Esteem and Conceit True self-esteem isn’t arrogance or thinking you’re better than others. It’s a realistic, compassionate assessment of your own worth. It means accepting your strengths and weaknesses without judgment, believing you deserve respect (including from yourself), and knowing your value isn’t dependent on external validation or achievement. Self-esteem is quiet confidence, not loud boasting. When you have healthy self-esteem, you can acknowledge your limitations without shame and celebrate your wins without nee...

Here’s a straightforward approach to getting organized: Start with a brain dump Write down absolutely everything that’s on your mind - tasks, worries, ideas, things you need to do. Getting it all out of your head and onto paper (or a note) is surprisingly relieving and helps you see what you’re actually dealing with. Identify your biggest pain points What’s causing you the most stress or chaos right now? Maybe it’s your physical space, your schedule, your finances, or just having too many commitments. Focus on the one or two areas that would make the biggest difference if you tackled them first. Pick one simple system and stick with it Don’t overcomplicate this. Choose one method for tracking tasks - whether that’s a basic to-do list app, a notebook, or your phone’s reminders. The best system is the one you’ll actually use. I can help you set up reminders if that would be useful. Do a 15-minute daily reset Set aside a few minutes each day to tidy one area, review what’s coming up tomor...

  For some people learning how to improve themselves every day is exciting and motivating. For others, this type of ongoing self-improvement might feel overwhelming and daunting.  Self-improvement is a personal journey that requires a willingness to experience discomfort. The desire to improve yourself can come on when you’re stuck in a rut or are unsatisfied with your current way of living. Cognitive behavioural therapy helps in this area. Feeling frozen in the same place and like nothing changes can be frustrating.  If this feels relatable, taking action is the first step toward improved self-development. Personal growth requires both consistency and stretching past what you know. Your path may not be linear, but every step you take is part of becoming the best version of yourself. To learn how to be better, it helps to have a toolbox of specific exercises you can practice to improve your habits. The following list includes tangible self-improvement techniques you can s...

Reclaiming Your Worth: Healing After Sexual Assault Content Warning: This article discusses sexual assault and trauma. Please prioritize your wellbeing and read only when you feel ready. If you're reading this, you may be searching for something that was never actually lost - your worth. Sexual assault can make you feel like your value has been taken, damaged, or diminished. But here's the truth that this entire article will explore: what happened to you does not define your worth. Your worth was never dependent on what was done to you, and it cannot be taken away by anyone's actions. This is a truth that might feel impossible to believe right now. That's okay. Healing doesn't require you to believe it immediately. It only asks that you remain open to the possibility. What This Article Is (And Isn't) This isn't a timeline for healing. There is no "should be over it by now." This isn't about toxic positivity or forcing yourself to feel strong be...