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  And What You Can Do About It Understanding how early experiences influence who you become — and using that understanding to heal, grow, and thrive.   "Your childhood is not your destiny — but understanding it is the first step to rewriting your story."   Have you ever wondered why you react to certain situations the way you do? Why some relationships feel familiar in ways that aren't always healthy? Why certain fears seem to have no logical source — yet they show up anyway? The answer often lives in your past. More specifically, in your childhood. The experiences you had in your early years — the way you were loved, the messages you absorbed, the environments you navigated — didn't just disappear when you grew up. They shaped the neural pathways in your brain, formed your beliefs about yourself and the world, and created the emotional patterns you still carry today. This isn't about blame. It's not about staying stuck in the past. It's about understandin...

Overcoming tragedy of suicide  I know how it feels to lose a person through suicide, it never the easiest experience. I’ve lost two brother's to suicide and it had a big impact on my life. No one knows what it truly feels to go through trauma at a young age of 9 when my youngest brother took his life in 1995, they didn't talk about suicide or even get kids therapy to get through their loss instead my mother didn’t know how to handle it or tell a child the truth. She didn't tell me until I was sixteen which made me struggle with depression. She regrets and now understands suicide. So, I spent years trying to accept my loss.   At the age of 28 my oldest brother took his life by using a gun to his head blowing his brain's. Trust me it was hard.  I struggled as my father had a stroke few days before it happened it didn't feel real at all, felt a lot of guilt but we shouldn't be feeling guilty of the person's death as they chose to end their life. So how do we ov...

What Is EFT? Emotional Freedom Technique, commonly known as EFT or “tapping,” is a self-help tool that combines elements of acupuncture, psychology, and modern wellness practices. Developed in the 1990s by Gary Craig, EFT is based on the idea that unresolved emotional issues and limiting beliefs create disruptions in the body’s energy meridian system. By tapping on specific acupressure points while focusing on these issues, practitioners believe they can clear energetic blockages and promote emotional and physical healing. While the scientific evidence is still evolving, many people report significant improvements in stress, anxiety, phobias, and even chronic pain after using EFT regularly. How EFT Works The basic principle behind EFT combines two key components: exposure (addressing the issue) and somatic stimulation (tapping). Here’s what happens during a typical session: Acknowledgment: You identify a specific problem—whether it’s anxiety about public speaking, fear of flying, or ch...

Rising above trauma  What happens if the trauma is so intense that you don't know how to overcome it? Here's what I think of the trauma I have faced not once but twice. I lost two brothers to suicide, my brother put a gun to his head and that is something you can't ever forget. I had to adjust my thoughts towards life and death. You ask yourself the questions, How do I get through it? I know it hurts but how do I get through it? Here’s a way through the emotional process I've learned. Let yourself feel it all  Stop carrying the blame  Speak the story  Find your anchor in the present   There's no way to explain the order of trauma. Someone else's experience may seem more or less than our own but we need to get real about it. What's important is not the event itself, not the suffering as such, but how we make sense of it. Many people experience challenging life events that they thought they could not overcome. But, I am that example for those who have been t...

Handling abuse and rise above it I been abused by men and other people. However… no one is perfect but knowing how to handle it is important. I was sexually abused and the guy got community sentence but it doesn’t stop the person from harassing & stalking me. I  will rise above the negative behaviour. Don’t be afraid to be strong and never let anyone destroy your inner child within. A book I highly recommend is Rising strong by Brene' Brown it worth reading. However, it d oesn't matter if it sexual or violent still no form of abuse is not okay! As a life coach I have learned a lot from my own experience's. Why stay to be used & abused by people? do you know the signs? If not then you need to learn them. Take responsibility for yourself today! You don't have to stay in the situation and you can walk away, leave the person to deal with their issues on their own, I been there with many people even my own family abuse each other and sexual relationships g...

Trauma   After a trauma, it’s normal to experience flashbacks, anxiety, and other uncomfortable symptoms.   Grounding techniques   help control these symptoms by turning attention away from thoughts, memories, or worries, and refocusing on the present moment. In this article, you will learn four powerful grounding techniques for managing the symptoms of trauma. For a printable or audio version of grounding techniques, see the following resources: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/grounding-techniques Trauma is complicated. It can be obvious, with a clear cause, and symptoms that seem to make sense. Or, trauma can be buried beneath depression, anxiety, and anger, without any recognizable origin. The causal event may have occurred a week ago, or half a century in the past. To help survivors of trauma make sense of what they're experiencing, psychoeducation is a natural place to begin. Psychoeducation can help by normalizing the experience of trauma, and by givi...