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Real self care

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Real self care Calm nature What is it? It's not about all the fantasy of aromatherapy etc it's about your physical and mental wellbeing that needs care everyday. I learned from when I struggled with mental health for 20 odd years of my life and here I am as a life coach to teach you these tools. From eating healthy diet to exercising, meditation and sleep. All that is good tools that helps stress and anxiety. This is where CBT cognitive behavioural therapy is used to help us overcome many things. Writing in a journal with a cup of tea or coffee (whatever works for you) and use the concept from negative to positive mindset. The more we understand it the likely we can shift the negative mindset about a lot of things. This is why NZ has been given free CBT tools to help them overcome a lot for example anxiety and depression that overwhelms you. Using these tools in self help can help us more than we think. I've used many of these tools in my life. Self compassion and self kind...

How to Tap Into a Growth Mindset and Crush Your Goals

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  Tap into self growth mindset  When we're chasing our  goals , the secret to success might just be in the way we approach them. We can choose to adopt a growth mindset or a fixed mindset. Being willing to put in the hard work and being open to learning are signs of a growth mindset. The trick is to believe that we can improve our skills and abilities if we put in the effort. On the other hand, a fixed mindset has us believing that we either have what it takes or we don’t. This mindset can be limiting because it keeps us from learning and growing. People with growth mindsets see abilities, talents, and  intelligence  as something one can learn and improve through their own hard work, Goredema explains. On the contrary, she says someone with a fixed mindset sees those same traits as set in stone and unchangeable. Our  mindset  can affect how we view challenges and obstacles. People with a growth mindset see challenges as opportunities for growth and dis...

What does Self help really mean?

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  What Does "Self Help" Mean?   On the eve of each new year, people commit to making lifestyle changes they believe will help them in personal satisfaction and  happiness . But while an entire industry exists to help people meet these goals , most individuals still flounder. How many times can a person try to lose weight,  quit smoking , cut back  alcohol  consumption, or try to find a more suitable purpose in life? One answer: As many times as it takes to get it right.  In contemporary parlance, the term self-help is associated with actions and interventions that a person can take on their own or with guided literature, as opposed to working with a clinician.  Self-help can help you think about your goals with a big picture view. this is why I teach these skills to help you self today. It encourages you to, for example, outline  your short-term and long-term goals, and whether they are realistic and achievable. writing them in a journal help...

Stop Self-Sabotaging: How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

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  Stop Self-Sabotaging: How To Get Out Of Your Own Way You know what you need to do – to make healthy food choices, to meditate, to apply for that new job, to end that old relationship, to take time for yourself. Why is it so hard to make it happen? Good question right?  It’s self-sabotaging. We do it when we think we’re not worthy of good things, when fear, insecurity, or a lack of confidence tell us to expect little from and for ourselves.  Self-sabotagers  may choose many different paths – both overtly negative and toxically positive – but the bottom line is, they hurt themselves in the long term because of the choices they make in the short term.  So, what does self-sabotaging look like?  When many of us think about  self-sabotage , we think about it in terms of self-restraint. We feel like we’re self-sabotaging when we can’t say no to a slice of cake. Self-sabotage can also look like saying yes, though.  For example, demanding perfection and ...

How to let go of the past and embrace future

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  How to Let Go of the Past and Embrace Your Future Letting go is challenging, but can be a great change for your well-being. We have a natural tendency to dwell on the past. After all, our experiences and decisions—including the good and the not-so-pretty situations. Ultimately help inform who we are today and can have a lasting impact on our world. As important as past experiences are, though, they don’t have to define us or hold us back in our present lives or  our future .  Learning how to unchain yourself from  past traumas  or regrets is one of the most freeing things you can do for yourself. Not only does it release you from stifling guilt or  paralyzing fears , but it sets you up to jump into a future that’s exciting and fulfilling. I know from my own experience.  I studied why we tend to dwell on the past, why letting go is so important, and actionable steps you can take to move forward and foster personal growth.  Why Letting Go Is Impor...