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Narcissistic monkey 🙈  I am often asked some version of this question: “I am living with a narcissist and I don’t know what to do? What do I need to know to make this relationship as good as possible?” Most of the people who ask me these questions already know that the standard advice is leave but… you can have a parent who is a narcissist. I have written this post for those of you who do not want to leave until you have tried everything possible. Here are the basics of what you need to know about being in a relationship with someone who has  narcissistic   personality disorder . Note:  I am using the term “narcissist” here to describe people who have made a narcissistic behaviour to a situation. No disrespect is intended. The word narcissism describes a pattern of thinking and behaving. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, things will go smoother if you know three basic things: What being with a narcissist really means reading a book called difficult peo...

Consequences of bad behaviour  Consequences are the things that happen because of our actions and decisions. They’re a part of everyday life for everyone. Consequences can influence behaviour. Some consequences can make behaviour more likely in the future. These consequences include  positive attention ,  praise, encouragement and rewards , and other things your child likes. Other consequences make behaviour less likely in the future. These consequences are things your child doesn’t like. They might include the consequences you give your child for challenging behaviour, like quiet time, time-out or loss of privilege. Plenty of positive consequences for positive behaviour might mean fewer consequences for challenging behaviour. What to consider if you use consequences as a behaviour strategy Consequences work best when you have a  close and loving relationship with your child . That’s because your child will do best when they feel supported, encouraged and safe. It’s ...