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Your wisest self reflection

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  How to Grow Wise It’s easy to lose sight of what really matters in life when caught up in daily routines and preoccupations. Reflecting on one’s mortality brings goals and values back into focus.   Your Wisest Self  is a version of who you want to be this worksheet asks you to imagine you’re nearing the end of a long, rewarding life. From that perspective,  offer life wisdom to your younger, present-day selves and reflect on how you can translate this wisdom into action. There are many different definitions of wisdom in  ​​psychology research , but the one I like best centers on two characteristics: Wit:  Having procedural and factual knowledge, problem-solving abilities, critical thinking skills, self-reflection abilities, and  perspective-taking  skills; Virtue:  Being ​​goodhearted​​, motivated to enhance the well-being of self and others, guided by values, and able to tolerate uncertainty in the service of meaning. Wisdom doesn’t necessarily come with age (my 10-year-old is often
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Coping with house moving stress

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  How to Cope with the Stress of Moving Moving homes is a fact of life. It’s common to move locally several times in one’s life, and for some,  moving long distance  to a new town, city, or even province more than once in their lifetime is also quite common. But, unfortunately, knowing that we’ll all have to move at some point doesn’t make the process and transition any easier or less stressful. Uprooting your life, or even just changing homes and dealing with all the long work that goes into a move, is disruptive and stressful whatever your age or situation. But, understanding why you’re feeling stressed and learning how to cope with the stress of moving can help. Why is moving stressful? Before you can learn to cope with the stress of moving, you need to understand why the experience causes these types of feelings and reactions. There are several possible reasons, and those that apply to you will depend on your reason for moving, your personality, and other factors:  Note: there will
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Finding Happiness

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 Finding happiness  Are you happy? 79% of people believe that happiness comes from things like money and fame, but long-lasting happiness is developed from maintaining a higher sense of well-being and gratitude. Happiness can be challenging to locate and hold onto if it's easily unhinged, so the key is understanding what those fragile hinges are to our happiness and replacing them.   Overview The secrets to happiness break down into five parts: Real happiness is a long-term mental state Seek happiness within Don't get happiness confused with pleasure Happiness isn’t about avoiding suffering Free yourself from your own ego. - as it not a healthy way to be. Let’s dive in! 1.) Real happiness is a long-term mental state Most of us perceive happiness as momentary, subject to external circumstances beyond our control.  Let's break down this concept and explore a path to enduring happiness. The Rollercoaster of Momentary Joy External Triggers:  Bursts of happiness, like a raise or
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Overcome negative past relationships

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Overcoming negative past relationships    the past my world was crashing down around me. And I asked myself how could I possibly live without them? What’s wrong with me? Am I going to be forever alone? These were the thoughts racing through my mind within the first five minutes after the breakup. I realized just how invested I was in this person and that I had to learn how to live on my own again.   After going on an emotional rampage for a few days, I took a much-needed self care Moment and finally I asked myself, “What’s next?” That’s when I decided negative thoughts and petty post-relationship moves weren’t going to consume me, I would  not  be one of those people that stalks their ex while eating too much ice cream. Here’s how I managed to get through a really rough breakup.  Accept that you can’t change your past Remember that your past is always there, but you can’t change it (unless you somehow have a Time Machine) Why dwell on something that’s fixed in time, something that caus
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