Gaining control from negative events

Gaining control from negative events


Have you ever heard someone say "I've lost control of my life"? There have been times where I've said to myself "man I can't get in control of myself"! What I'm really saying is I'm no longer in control of my events in my life which means I am reacting to these situations. Being out of control is a horrible feeling but we can feel like we got control by accepting it. To be honest what person has almost absolute total control over the negative events in his or her professional and personal environment? Everything we experience is an event. So…. are you going to take more control by changing how you respond to it? What is important is not that there are uncontrollable events in our lives, but how we respond to them. Often the most realistic response is to adapt. Unless you want to stress yourself out that's the other option. To describe how a person can feel inside when faced with events they can't control. Often people will use words like frustrated, stressed, anger, and fear. What level of self-esteem is associated with these words? It's low self-esteem indeed! It doesn't feel good to be out of control but I have met control freaks who can't seem to understand why it is important to see it with a different perspective. 
How I like to start my day to feel like I am in control is by doing something positive is put music on and do meditation, yoga or some kind of exercise - morning routine structure. How you start your day will help you handle the rest of the out of your control situations more effectively. Make sure you breathe gain mindful state so you can move forward with these experiences. When friends walk away from you claiming you are a problem when they have issues of their own. Most of the time they are the ones who don’t care or understand you at all. These type of people are not true friends if they treat you badly. 

How I react to someone I don't care for but I'm in control more than I think.
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I hope this helps you find a way to improving your life.
As always Love

Remember your have more control than you think.

Lori from lifesuccessnz xx

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