What is Real self care?

What is Real self care?


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What is self care? It's not about all the fantasy of aromatherapy etc it's about physical and mental wellbeing that needs care everyday. 

In recent years, the term “self-care” has become a cultural phenomenon—plastered across social media, touted in wellness blogs, and marketed as the ultimate remedy for stress and burnout. It’s often depicted as indulgent spa days or expensive retreats, but despite its popularity, many people struggle to truly reap the benefits. Why? Because we’ve lost touch with what it really means to take care of ourselves.

I learned from when I struggled with mental health for 20 odd years of my life and here I am as a life coach to teach you these tools. From eating healthy diet for example eating more vegetables to exercising, meditation and getting 8-9 hour sleep. All that is good tools that helps stress and anxiety. This is where CBT cognitive behavioural therapy is used to help us overcome many things. 

The Misconception of Self-Care

Self-care is often portrayed as a luxury—something reserved for special occasions or when life becomes overwhelmingly stressful. It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that self-care needs to be a grand, expensive gesture. While certain activities or purchases can certainly be enjoyable, they can also set an unrealistic standard for what self-care is supposed to look like.

True self-care, however, doesn’t require a large budget or a significant amount of time. It doesn’t need to be extravagant or perfect. Real self-care is about simplicity and intention. It’s about finding small, meaningful ways to check in with yourself regularly, even amid your daily responsibilities. Whether it’s taking five minutes to breathe deeply, savoring a quiet moment with your morning coffee, or going for a short walk, self-care can—and should—fit seamlessly into your life.

Presence requires mindfulness—fully engaging in the activity rather than focusing on what’s next on your agenda. It’s about slowing down and giving yourself permission to experience the moment fully. When you’re present, even simple acts of self-care become powerful tools for rejuvenation. A short walk can become a moment of clarity, a few minutes of deep breathing can reset your nervous system, and a quiet cup of tea can turn into a peaceful ritual that nourishes your soul.

Self-care doesn’t have to involve a lengthy meditation session or a perfectly curated routine. It’s about finding small, manageable ways to care for yourself regularly. Specially if you have a health condition. Consistency is the key because it reinforces the habit of checking in with yourself and addressing your needs before they become overwhelming.

Boundaries to others and moving past guilt that you want time to yourself. Be clear to others about your boundaries. Be direct and firm to others about your boundaries. 

Mindset 
Having a positive mindset is important to how we care for ourselves. This means using cbt known as cognitive behavioral therapy. The more we have a healthy mind towards things in life we can get through a lot.

Treating yourself with compassion Self compassion and self kindness can have a big impact on your everyday routines including gratitude, breath work, meditation etc. Simple yet effective tools.


Writing in a journal with a cup of tea or coffee (whatever works for you) and use the concept from negative to positive mindset. The more we understand it the likely we can shift the negative mindset about a lot of things. This is why NZ has been given free CBT tools to help them overcome a lot for example anxiety and depression that overwhelms you. Using these tools in self help can help us more than we think. I've used many of these tools in my life.

Holding onto hope 
Building hope skills is important to any negative situation.


Positive self talk 

 Self talk is saying positive things to yourself affirmations but don't drag yourself down or down grade yourself either. We all struggle with something so be kind to yourself. 

Real self care is about doing things that work for you. Also getting help when you need it specially in mental health situations. Part of cognitive behavioral therapy.

Choose rest when you need it. Remember to take “me time” and rest your mind and body. Be kind to yourself.

Use cognitive behavioral therapy 

CBT is apart of it but doing the things is the step on the right direction. I started coaching self help tools to help my mental health and you can too! Take that step! That step can be getting a journal Start writing your thoughts and reconstruct your mindset from negative to a positive. This is how CBT cognitive behavioural therapy works. 

Try out this website https://www.justathought.co.nz

Psychiatrists often prove that evidence based recommend movement known as exercise. What type of self care have you tried? Do you know the difference between faux and real self care? Where you can use CBT and exercise to improve on how you handle things. Faux self care is not real in fact it is an escape from reality. we need to be aware of this and be mindful of our mindsets each day. The most simple thing I've done many times is a walk on the local beach on hot summer day. So, what real self care habits are you doing?

https://greatist.com/grow/boundary-values-self-care

https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-take-care-of-yourself

https://tranquilitynz.blogspot.com/2024/05/how-to-think-positive-when-depressed.html


Lori from Lifesuccessnz xx

 

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