Building a resilient child

 












As much as we would love to shield our kids from the harder parts of life, sadly we can’t keep them from facing challenges, big and small. I believe it is important to teach kids how to handle challenges in life like I did.

What we can do, however, is teach our kids the skills of resilience. I’ve been through a lot as a child and lost a sibling through suicide in 1995 and there was nothing for children back in 1995 they swept it under the carpet but it’s important we actually learn ways to overcome these traumatic experiences.

Resilience is what helps us humans cope when times get tough.

Although the term ‘resilience’ is talked about a lot these days, it’s not always well understood. It doesn’t mean simply putting on a brave face or learning not to care about what happens to us. It means facing the negative situations with courage.

It’s about being able to recognise that some things in life are hard. And it’s ok to have big feelings about that. 

When we can accept our feelings and move through them in a healthy way, then we are beginning to build resilience.

There are lots of little habits that we can bring in every day to help pave the way. And a big bonus is that when we do this, we as grown-ups can become more resilient too!

Here are the 7 learnings from the ‘How to raise resilient kids’

  • Being resilient is something we learn and childhood is the best time to start.

  • We can help our kids develop the habit of responding from a calm place rather than a stressed one. Sadly some parents don’t and the child struggles even more.

  • Resilience comes from accepting that sometimes life is hard, realising that it’s okay to have big emotions and knowing that we’ll get through it. And teaching them how to write in a journal is a great idea. 💡

  • Spending quality time with our kids, talking about our feelings and naming them out loud helps with resilience.

  • Belly breathing and movement can both help us cope when we feel overwhelmed. This is part of resilience. This type of technique is used in anxiety as well.

  • Encourage your kids to problem solve, accept their mistakes, and build their skills by trying new things. This helps to build resilience. 

  • Help your kids to figure out what they enjoy, celebrate their wins and recognise that even when things are hard they can be learning, growing and moving forward. This builds a lifelong mindset for resilience. 
I hope this helps you and your child have resilience towards negative experiences in life.

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