Live Your Best Life: A Guide to Intentional Living

Live your best life! 



“Live your best life” gets thrown around a lot, but what does it actually mean? It’s not about having it all figured out or achieving some perfect version of yourself. It’s about making conscious choices aligned with your values, pursuing what matters most to you, and continuously growing into who you want to become. Here’s how to start living authentically and purposefully.
Define What “Best” Means to You
Before you can live your best life, you need to understand what that looks like for you personally. Best doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. For some, it’s family and stability. For others, it’s adventure and exploration. For many, it’s a combination of things. Take time to reflect on your deepest values and what genuinely brings you fulfillment—not what society, your family, or social media tells you should matter.
Write down your answers to these questions: What activities make you feel most alive? What kind of person do you want to be? What would you regret not doing? What impact do you want to have on others? Your answers form the foundation for living intentionally.
Get Clear on Your Goals
Vague aspirations don’t create change. Get specific about what you want to achieve in different areas of your life—career, relationships, health, personal growth, finances, creativity. Make your goals concrete and measurable. Instead of “be healthier,” try “exercise three times a week” or “drink eight glasses of water daily.” Specificity transforms wishes into actionable plans.
Break larger goals into smaller milestones. This makes them feel less overwhelming and creates momentum as you celebrate wins along the way. Progress over perfection is the key to sustaining motivation.
Invest in Your Personal Growth
Your best life requires you to be a growing version of yourself. This means continuously learning, developing new skills, and expanding your perspective. Read widely, take courses, listen to podcasts, travel to new places, or simply have conversations with people different from you. Every experience that challenges your current thinking contributes to your evolution.
Personal growth also means doing the inner work—understanding your patterns, healing past wounds, and working through limiting beliefs. This might involve therapy, journaling, meditation, or honest self-reflection. The willingness to look inward and change is what separates those who grow from those who stagnate.
Build a Life Around Your Energy
Pay attention to what energizes you versus what drains you. Your best life isn’t built doing things that consistently deplete your energy. This might mean reconsidering your career, the people you spend time with, how you structure your days, or what commitments you take on. Protecting your energy is protecting your ability to show up as your best self.
This doesn’t mean avoiding all challenges or difficulties. Rather, it means being intentional about where you invest your limited time and energy. Choose pursuits, relationships, and environments that align with who you are and who you want to become.
Cultivate Meaningful Relationships
Success and achievement feel hollow without people to share them with. Your best life includes deep, genuine connections with others. Invest time in relationships that matter—not surface-level interactions, but real connections where you can be yourself. Show up for people consistently. Listen without trying to fix. Be the friend, partner, or family member you want to have.
Quality relationships require vulnerability and authenticity. Let people see the real you, struggles and all. Surround yourself with people who support your growth and challenge you to be better, not those who diminish you or hold you back.
Stop Living for Others’ Approval
One of the biggest obstacles to living your best life is seeking validation from others. You can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. What matters is whether you’re living in a way that feels true to you. Let go of trying to impress people, meet others’ expectations, or prove your worth through achievement.
This takes courage. You might disappoint some people. Some might judge you. But the alternative—spending your life in a smaller version of yourself to make others comfortable—is far worse. Your best life is one where you’re being authentically you.
Take Calculated Risks
Playing it safe feels comfortable, but it rarely leads to growth or fulfillment. Your best life likely involves some risk—changing careers, pursuing a passion, moving somewhere new, ending an unhealthy relationship, starting a creative project. The key is taking calculated risks, not reckless ones.
Assess what could go wrong and whether you could handle it. Do your research. Build skills. Save a safety net if needed. But don’t let fear paralyze you. Most people who regret their lives aren’t regretting the risks they took—they’re regretting the chances they didn’t take.
Practice Gratitude and Presence
It’s easy to focus on what’s missing and what you still need to achieve. But living your best life also means appreciating what you already have and being present to experience it. Regularly acknowledge what’s working, the progress you’ve made, and the good things already in your life.
Be fully present during meaningful moments rather than constantly planning the next thing. Put the phone down. Listen deeply. Savor experiences. Your best life isn’t something to achieve in the future—parts of it exist right now if you slow down enough to notice.
Establish Non-Negotiable Habits
Consistency is what transforms intention into reality. Identify the habits that directly support your best life and protect them fiercely. This might include daily exercise, meditation, time for creativity, date nights with your partner, or weekend time with family. These aren’t luxuries to fit in if you have time—they’re foundations of your best life.
Start with one or two habits and build from there. Small, consistent actions compound into major life changes over time. The person living their best life isn’t someone who has it all figured out; it’s someone who commits to showing up for themselves regularly.
Embrace Failure as Part of the Process
You will fail. You will make mistakes. Plans won’t work out. People will disappoint you. This isn’t a detour from living your best life—it’s part of it. How you respond to setbacks determines whether they derail you or redirect you toward something better.
See failure as feedback, not a reflection of your worth. Extract the lesson, adjust your approach, and keep going. Resilience—your ability to bounce back—is one of the most important qualities for building the life you want.
Regularly Reassess and Adjust
Living your best life isn’t static. What matters to you might shift. Your circumstances will change. Goals you thought were essential might lose importance. Set aside time regularly—maybe quarterly or annually—to reflect on whether your current life is aligned with your values. Be willing to pivot, let go of what no longer serves you, and pursue new directions.
Life is long and multifaceted. Your best life at 25 might look different from your best life at 45, and that’s perfect. Stay flexible while remaining grounded in your core values.
Start Today
Your best life doesn’t start when conditions are perfect or when you have everything figured out. It starts with the next decision you make. Choose alignment over comfort. Choose growth over stagnation. Choose authenticity over approval. Choose action over endless planning.
Living your best life is a practice, not a destination. Every choice you make either moves you closer to or further from the life you truly want. You have more power than you think. The question isn’t whether you can live your best life—it’s whether you’re ready to commit to it.
Your best life is waiting. Are you ready to step into it?

Blessings from Lori at Lifesuccessnz xx


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