Overcome abuse in relationship's

I myself have been through abusive relationships and my mother went through abuse herself by two husband's who didn't treat her the way she should of been. I guess I was living her experience so I have a good understanding of how it felt. 

I know what it feels like to have a court order on someone who won't let you move on with life. 

We need to stop being someone we are not and that is why I use self help therapy to help my mind not think if the negativity of the situation, I know that a person who you have a court order against can't leave you alone is scary! Which causes anxiety I know from my own experience with online bullying.

I want to teach you a skill you can use during the experience CBT congitive behavioral therapy change your perception of the situation. 

1. Thoughts - are they positive or negative?

2. Attitude - how you respond to the situation

3. Behavior - what is your behavior positive or negative response do you have an attitude how you speak to others, are you trying to stay calm or negative?

4. Action - how you speak, behave around others or negative attitude towards the situation. 

No person has a right to abuse or harass you in any form. I hope you are inspired to think more positive and not let the abuse destroy you because you are stronger than you think if I can get through it you can too! 

Sending my love to you from Lifesucessnz xx

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