Why I say that boundaries will free you I mean it is because these boundaries can release us from being overloaded with stress. So, let's say no to things you don't need in your life this is self care, respecting your values. I used to be a push over so I started to have boundaries and really take care of myself, even when someone posted a negative comment I was able to walk away and report these people regardless not letting them destroy me within. I used judgement detox from Gabrielle Bernstein and it has helped me overcome my fears of bullying online even when someone steps over the boundaries, there is no excuse for their behavior but I tried to stay emotionally strong.
This is a challenge for us we need to remember what we have a responsibility to look after our needs during the negative experience you either embrace it or you have a melt down and think negative or see it in more positive light. What will you choose?
self-beliefs CBT Let’s work on finding a way to changing your negative mindset and beliefs that are not serving you any purpose. This is well known in mental health and it is ideal to put in place when suffering from depression. Unhelpful behaviours CBT isn’t just about thoughts it’s about actions too. Start changing behaviour is reinforcing low moods and anxiety. Behavioural activation is key for depression. Do more of what matters, even when you don’t feel like it at all. I’ve been down this path myself and know how important it is to put this behaviour in action. Keep this reframing tool in place the more you do it better the habit will be. CBT in Action: Self-Beliefs 🔹 1. Identify the Negative Core Beliefs These are often a known thoughts and beliefs, like: "I’m not good enough." "I always fail." "No one cares about me." 🔍 Action Step: Ask yourself these questions: “What do I believe about myself deep down?” “When I feel low, what ...
Building Self-Confidence & Resilience Confidence, Kiwi-Style: You Don’t Need to Be Loud to Be Strong. 💪 You don’t have to shout to believe in yourself. Real confidence is quiet. It’s grounded. It’s knowing who you are—even when the world is loud. In Aotearoa, we often mistake humility for invisibility. But whakamanawa means rising with courage, not ego. Here’s how to rebuild self-trust today: ✅ Speak kindly to yourself ✅ Do one thing that scares you (gently) ✅ Remember your whakapapa—your strength runs deep Confidence isn’t a switch. It’s a relationship. And like any good relationship, it starts with trust. Journaling prompt Prompt: “What’s one thing your inner critic says?”“Now ask: Would you say that to a friend? If not, it doesn’t belong in your head either.” “ Whakapapa is Power” Hope this gives an idea how to overcome “tall poppy syndrome”. Check out this article https://tranquilitynz.blogspot.com/2025/07/tall-poppy-syndrome.html
Social media vs self esteem A number of people that spend on social media is growing. When it comes to social media, lots of us only share the nice stuff from our lives. We don’t always want to post the sad stuff but that can mean that our feeds just end up looking like happy sunshine until you start looking at feeds of other people you follow, think that’s all there is in their life, and then feel horrible because your life isn’t as good, or wonder why they don’t have bad days like you do. We have all been there. To give you an idea of just how much a part of our lives social media impacted our lives I was abused by many people on social media and YouTube 5 years ago and it was horrible experience. In 2018 average kiwis spend 5-6 hours a day on internet 🛜 so that is not a healthy habit to have. It has affected teenagers and causes them to commit suicide which is not okay at all. Self esteem in the spotlight I’m proud of my hard work in the music industry...
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