3 steps to boundaries

 3 steps to boundaries 



If it is someone you love or a friend you care about. This can get ugly then you need to be clear about these boundaries but if the person is aggressive and abusive then it is a concern you need to deal with to get out of that relationship or friendship because it is doing you more harm than good. 


The most important relationship you need is with yourself.

It’s easy to be a people pleaser and stuck in that.

You have to be super clear about your boundaries but I know it can be a challenging situation. Be kind to yourself regardless of how you set the boundaries. 


Some common examples include: 


  • Saying no to requests that you don’t wish to do and if they throw tantrums well that proves that they got issues that are not yours to take on. 

  • Taking time out to look after yourself especially if you meditate regularly be clear about that. 

  • Cancelling a commitment because you feel unwell or uncomfortable with the situation. 


3 steps 


  • Minimize people pleasing but if no shows appreciation then they will look stupid and disrespectful. 


  • Practice saying no! 


  • Give yourself permission to live in accordance with your values in your life, if the other person can’t respect that then they are in the wrong. 


So that is my advice to you. Listen to podcast episode. 

Check out this blog https://www.groovnow.com/blog/becoming-better-with-boundaries 





Podcasts 

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VMewZBlyzgfAr1EiTgfKp?si=NnQ6Q3iXTme4bxpiBnWv8A&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A706hylM6zaDW8LrrYxcggQ&dd=1


https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bmaQVKL4x7HSAzeWjV7ZS?si=9GVv-bBMQAGEhClEdPzpvQ&dd=1




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