Social media vs self esteem

Social media vs self esteem 



   A number of people that spend on social media is growing. When it comes to social media, lots of us only share the nice stuff from our lives. We don’t always want to post the sad stuff but that can mean that our feeds just end up looking like happy sunshine until you start looking at feeds of other people you follow, think that’s all there is in their life, and then feel horrible because your life isn’t as good, or wonder why they don’t have bad days like you do. We have all been there. To give you an idea of just how much a part of our lives social media impacted our lives I was abused by many people on social media and YouTube 5 years ago and it was horrible experience. In 2018 average kiwis spend 5-6 hours a day on internet 🛜 so that is not a healthy habit to have.  It has affected teenagers and causes them to commit suicide which is not okay at all.

Self esteem in the spotlight 

I’m proud of my hard work in the music industry in the past 13 years and last year my songs were on a vinyl record that was sold around the world. And that made me proud of myself. What content I created for my coaching also made an impact on the world and I continue to do. Even though I was stalked and harassed by a guy who was not leaving me alone and had to go through court to stop him. It had an impact on my self esteem and confidence. I worked hard on my self esteem and confidence since then. It’s important to embrace who you are regardless. Comes down to your positive mindset. That’s why cognitive behavioural therapy is important to use. 

It’s about the journey 

The journey is what makes you who you are. Explore and you will discover what type of person you are today. Don’t search for happiness on the outside as I learned to find gratitude of things that brought me happiness within. Learn from these things experiences so you know when to stop being on social media too much. 

Self belief 

Having healthy self belief is so important! So let’s look at how we can do this. people develop core beliefs. Core beliefs are the thoughts a person has that determine how they interpret their experiences.

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Self love ❤️ 

Loving yourself is important but the term of it is thrown around a lot. Self love is pretty simple. It is compassion, recognising you are doing your best, and cutting yourself some slack. Be kind to yourself today! 

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