💔 How Do You Overcome Grief? A Life Coach’s Guide to Healing with Compassion

 Overcoming grief isn’t about “getting over” a loss — it’s about learning how to live with it, in a way that honours what (or who) you lost and allows you to heal at your own pace.

Here’s a compassionate and practical guide to help yourself or others move through grief — especially from a life coaching or mindset perspective.

Most of these stages are 

1. Denial 
2. Anger/resentment
3. Depression 
4. Acceptance/Acknowledging 
5. bargaining

💔 How Do You Overcome Grief? A Life Coach’s Guide to Healing with Compassion

Grief is not a straight road — it’s a spiral. One day you’re okay. The next, a song, a smell, or a memory takes you right back to the ache.

And that’s normal.

Grief is the price of love. And while we can’t “fix” it — we can learn to carry it with more strength, meaning, and even peace.

🧠 1. Understand That Grief 

You might have heard of the “5 Stages of Grief” (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) — but real grief doesn’t follow a checklist.

You might:

• Laugh one minute, cry the next.

• Feel numb for weeks, then suddenly overwhelmed.

• Go back to “normal” and then hit a wave out of nowhere.

Reminder: There’s no deadline. You’re not behind. You’re healing.

💬 2. Let Yourself Feel It — Without Judgement

Many people suppress grief because they think:

• “I should be over it by now.”

• “Crying means I’m weak.”

• “Other people have it worse.”

But repressing emotion doesn't make it go away — it gets stored in the body.

Allow yourself to feel:

• Sadness

• Anger

• Guilt

• Relief

• Loneliness

They’re all valid. You’re allowed to feel it all.

🔨 3. Find Healthy Ways to Express the Pain

Try:

• Journaling: Write a letter to the person you lost or to your past self.

• Movement: Walk, stretch, dance — let your body process what words can’t.

• Art: Draw, paint, or create something in honour of what you lost.

• Talk: Share with someone who will hold space for you (coach, therapist, or friend).

If the pain has no place to go, it can harden into depression or anxiety. Expressing it creates movement and healing.

🧩 4. Use Meaning-Based Reflection (Logotherapy Approach)

Ask yourself:

• What did I learn from this loss?

• How has it changed me?

• How can I honour this person or experience in how I live now?

This doesn’t mean “finding a silver lining.” It means letting grief become part of your story — not the end of it.

🪴 5. Create Small Rituals for Ongoing Healing acceptance 

Ritual brings comfort, even when we can’t change the loss.

Try:

• Lighting a candle every anniversary

• Visiting a special place

• Saying their name out loud

• Starting a tradition in their honour

Grief doesn’t vanish — but rituals give you a way to keep your love alive.

🧘‍♀️6. Be Kind to Your Nervous System

Grief is physically exhausting. It impacts your sleep, digestion, focus, and energy.

Support your body:

• Eat gently (not perfectly)

• Breathe deeply and often

• Sleep when you need it

• Move slowly

• Rest without guilt

Your body is grieving too. Nurture it.

💛 7. When to Reach Out for Support

You don’t have to go through this alone. A coach, counsellor, or therapist can help you:

• Process stuck emotions

• Rebuild routine and identity

• Navigate life after loss

Asking for support isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom.

 Final Words: You Don’t “Get Over” Grief — You Grow Around It

You learn to carry it. You change. You soften. You strengthen.

Over time, the grief that once broke you can become a quiet reminder of how deeply you loved. And love, even when it hurts, is always worth it.

Want to learn how to overcome resentment? Check out this article https://tranquilitynz.blogspot.com/2025/07/learn-how-to-let-go-of-resentment-to.html