Lifesuccessnz personal development

  🌱 The Truth About Self-Improvement: How to Grow Without Burning Out By Lori from Lifesuccessnz Life Coach – Mindset & Lifestyle Self-improvement is everywhere. Podcasts. Books. Quotes on Instagram. “Wake up at 5am.” “Cut out toxic people.” “Manifest your dream life.” It’s inspiring — until it becomes overwhelming. So let’s slow down for a second. Real self-improvement isn’t about becoming a “better version” of you by force. It’s about coming back to who you  already are  — with more clarity, kindness, and courage. Here’s how to grow without losing yourself along the way. 🧠 1. Start with Self-Awareness, Not Self-Criticism You can’t change what you don’t understand. The first step isn’t “fixing” yourself — it’s  getting curious . Ask: What are my patterns? Where do I self-sabotage? What thoughts keep looping in my mind? Self-awareness isn’t about judging your flaws. It’s about seeing clearly — so you can  choose  what to keep and what to let go. 🔄 2....

  Overcoming grief isn’t about “getting over” a loss — it’s about learning how to live   with   it, in a way that honours what (or who) you lost and allows you to heal at your own pace. Here’s a compassionate and practical guide to  help yourself or others move through grief  — especially from a life coaching or mindset perspective. Most of these stages are  Denial  Anger/resentment Depression  Acceptance/Acknowledging  bargaining 💔 How Do You Overcome Grief? A Life Coach’s Guide to Healing with Compassion Grief is not a straight road — it’s a spiral. One day you’re okay. The next, a song, a smell, or a memory takes you right back to the ache. And that’s normal. Grief is the price of love. And while we can’t “fix” it — we  can  learn to carry it with more strength, meaning, and even peace. 🧠 1. Understand That Grief  You might have heard of the “5 Stages of Grief” (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) — but real...

CBT for Depression: How to Shift Your Mindset One Thought at a Time Depression can feel like you’re stuck in a fog — heavy, hopeless, and unmotivated. Even getting out of bed can feel like climbing a mountain. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone — and there  are  tools that can help. One of the most effective tools I use with clients as a life coach is  CBT , or  Cognitive Behavioural Therapy . It’s not just a clinical technique — it’s a mindset tool that can empower you to gently challenge the thoughts that keep you stuck and start building new patterns of thinking. 💭 What is CBT? CBT stands for  Cognitive Behavioural Therapy . It’s based on the idea that our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are all connected. When we change the way we  think , we can shift the way we  feel , and that influences how we  act . Let’s break it down: Thought : “I’m a failure.” Feeling : Hopeless, sad, ashamed Behaviour : Withdraw from others, stay in bed, st...

  When strong emotions are involved, it can be hard to let go of resentment. You might feel angry, hurt, or disappointed. You might question whether forgiveness is possible. Depending on the strength of these feelings, you might feel like your resentment is something you’ll never get over. Resentment is a difficult feeling to rise above. When it lingers, it can affect your mental and physical health. It can also limit your path to personal growth. Luckily, learning how to let go of resentment is a skill you can learn and develop with the right tools. Resentment is a complex emotional reaction that stems from a feeling of injustice. You might feel persistently negative about a person or situation that you feel has harmed, wronged, or insulted you. Resentment can be hard to release, as you may feel forced to accept something you disagree with These  feelings and emotions  can cloud your judgment. They might even leave you constantly searching for reasons to maintain your fr...

Time Management for a Balanced Kiwi Life I’ve found that planning my daily schedule ahead of time is the easiest way to be productive and still make time for the things I enjoy doing. There are so many ways to plan your day which can feel a little overwhelming, but I always get inspired when I learn about how others structure their daily schedules.  Good old google calendar and tasks has helped.  Time management is a challenge for some of us but here are my tips to improve your time management skills. Get up earlier than you normally do and have a morning routine. Time yourself so you don't run out of time. Put clothes out ready for the morning. Short your shower time even if it cold weather. Planning your days with a planner. 🕒 Mastering Time Management: 5 Mindset Shifts to Take Control of Your Day If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “There’s just not enough time in the day,” you’re not alone. Time management isn’t just about calendars and to-do lists—it’s about your min...

  Building Self-Confidence & Resilience Confidence, Kiwi-Style: You Don’t Need to Be Loud to Be Strong. 💪  You don’t have to shout to believe in yourself. Real confidence is quiet. It’s grounded. It’s knowing who you are—even when the world is loud. In Aotearoa, we often mistake humility for invisibility. But  whakamanawa  means rising with courage, not ego. Here’s how to rebuild self-trust today: ✅ Speak kindly to yourself ✅ Do one thing that scares you (gently) ✅ Remember your whakapapa—your strength runs deep Confidence isn’t a switch. It’s a relationship. And like any good relationship, it starts with trust. Journaling prompt Prompt: “What’s one thing your inner critic says?”“Now ask: Would you say that to a friend? If not, it doesn’t belong in your head either.” “ Whakapapa is Power” Hope this gives an idea how to overcome “tall poppy syndrome”. Check out this article  https://tranquilitynz.blogspot.com/2025/07/tall-poppy-syndrome.html

 What is  Tall Poppy Syndrome? It is a social phenomenon—especially common in countries like New Zealand and Australia—where people who achieve success, stand out, or show confidence are "cut down" or criticised, resented, or mocked for it. The idea is that no one should rise "too high above the rest," like a tall poppy in a field of shorter ones. In other words: It discourages  individual excellence  if it's perceived as boasting or "getting too big for your boots." People might hide their success or  downplay their achievements  to avoid judgment or jealousy. It can be internalised too—leading people to  self-sabotage  or play small to stay accepted. Examples: A Kiwi entrepreneur avoids sharing her business wins because she's worried people will think she’s “up herself.” A student who gets top marks might be teased rather than celebrated. This behaviour is not okay at all and using cognitive behavioural therapy techniques can help this issue. Th...