Perfectionism

Overcome perfection 

 Perfectionism is a terrible thing and we adopt it out from our best intentions because we want to be good or “perfect” we want to be seen as we don’t make mistakes. But you can’t become a better version of yourself unless you accept your current version of yourself and this is self love. ❤️ 

Transformation does not happen in thin air. 

Reflection points 

  • You might feel discontent because something is not to your liking not perfect. 
  • You might feel anxious or overwhelmed 
  • You might feel stuck not sure where to go 
When you catch yourself in such moments stop and take a deep breath, and then give yourself permission to not be perfect. 

We are not designed to be perfect so let’s be kind to ourselves. Watch video below 👇 

Overall it’s about accepting yourself as you are. I’m not perfect I have epilepsy but I live life the best I can regardless of the circumstances. It’s important to remember that you are amazing regardless. We will improve on ourselves if we make an effort to do it. 

What is perfectionism? People with perfectionism hold themselves to impossibly high standards. They think what they do is never good enough. Some people mistakenly believe that perfectionism is a healthy motivator, but that's not the case. Perfectionism can make you feel unhappy with your life.
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The more we learn to be kind towards ourselves and not be perfect all the time because we are not born to be perfect. Loving who we are is important and don’t be hard on yourself at work because we all make mistakes.



To reduce perfectionism, it may help to:

  • set realistic, attainable goals
  • break up overwhelming tasks into small steps
  • focus on one activity or task at a time
  • acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes
  • recognize that most mistakes present learning opportunities 
  • confront fears of failure by remaining realistic about possible outcomes
Therapy, especially cognitive-behavioral therapy, may help you learn new ways of thinking about your goals and achievements. A therapist may help address your need for acceptance or reduce your reactions to negative feedback.


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