5 steps Toward Creating the Life You Want

 

Taking the leap of faith 



I was able to reach to the point of taking ownership of my life, and making the choice to uproot myself and relocate to the Hutt valley wellington, but then I had to move once again. By examining five main areas that encompassed the issues surrounding my desire to make a change. I offer them as life lessons that I hope you can use too:

  1. Know yourself. Understand yourself and why you prefer and enjoy the things and people you choose to have around you. I had to admit that, although I'm no city girl with a country heart or a city girl. The fact is that most of my adult life has been spent living and working in major cities. My résumé reflects a city-dweller’s career, as do my tastes and my expectations of the amenities I want in the place where I live. To live with authenticity requires us to know, and be fully comfortable with, being our genuine selves.
  2. Be honest about your unhappiness and loneliness. While I loved the area where I lived, the truth is I wasn’t happy because of the situation and opportunities for me there, and the friends I had didn’t satisfy my need for real connection and engagement. I felt major cognitive dissonance in knowing what I am capable of and what I enjoy in both professional and social terms, versus the life I was living.
  3. Believe in the strength of your skills and other assets. I had enough feedback over the years to know that I produce high-quality work that adds value to the organizations and publications for whom I do it. I knew my skills would be of value to others who appreciated the years of effort it took to develop them. I also knew I had social skills that are of value in cultivating professional and personal relationships.
  4. ‘Vision’ the better life you want. I use the noun ‘vision’ as a verb to make it clear that having a visual image in your mind of what you want will motivate you to take the actions needed to bring it to life.
  5. Be aware of life’s brevity. A friend of mine used to have a sticker that said, “Don’t postpone joy.” We can never know when our life will end, or when a doctor’s phone call can deliver news that changes our life forever. I had that experience with my stepdad who survived. I also witnessed far too many of my family friends die while I was in my twenties and thirties. Life is far too short and precious to waste any of it by staying in an unhappy place, whether that place is a physical location, a job, a relationship, or a state of mind. This is why I learned cognitive behavioural therapy.

By knowing yourself, you can get to a point where you are honest about what is and isn’t working in your life. Believing you have social and work skills that offer value to others, including employers, you can transfer them to a new place you might move to. That place can be a future residence, a new job, or new relationships. It can also be a state of mind that better suits you.

If you need a gentle shove or even a kick to get you moving toward your “hero moment” and the change you’d like to make in your life, just remind yourself that life really is short. None of us is promised tomorrow. Best to make today count by cultivating the "hero mindset," and choosing to live like the hero of your own story.



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