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Finding purpose after a loss After my dad died I had to work out my purpose in life again as he was my priority for a long time as he was not well. Now that dad has passed away I now looking at what I want to do with my life and work out with a vision tool, I use in a meditative state vision it in my mind of what I want it to look like. And the proud moment when I reach my retirement stage. I want to be successful in coaching and knowing I helped so many people who are in need of support and guidance a long their journey to find the life they want. Even though I have a battle with my health and epilepsy I still try to live life the best I can. Here’s the question what are you looking for in your life? My thoughts on the purpose I have is being a life coach and help others overcome the hard things that we face for example depression or tragic loss which I have experienced in my life since I was 9years old.  How can you find your purpose? Well, it can happen in different ways but I b...

  Many people struggle with the idea that thoughts play such a big role in the creation of their reality. If this was true, that would mean we are responsible for the seemingly bad or negative experiences that come into our lives. Perhaps a better way to look at this would be, your thoughts create how you perceive your reality. Events are happening in our lives all the time, and this is our mindset or known as vibration that paints them as being negative or positive. In truth, there really is no such thing as negative or positive. Your reality is simply what you choose it to be and how you focus on also how you choose to see things. Every experience is an opportunity to grow, and every experience offers both positive and negative, depending on how you want to see it. The more “positive” things you can focus on, the more positivity you will create in your life. It’s that simple! Of course, you can focus on positive emotions all you like, but you need to also feel them. If life is ch...

When we have negative thoughts it’s called cognitive distortions these thoughts can lead to a negative experience for example depression. Thoughts create feelings and feelings create actions create our behaviour. So, what thoughts are you having? What emotions are your thoughts triggering? What actions is emotions causing you to do? Being aware of this, it is important. what I teach in CBT known as cognitive behavioural therapy being mindful of our thoughts is something we need to be mindful of and do what we can to improve. Watch these videos below for more better understanding about CBT. Think of a triangle thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviour. When we see it Like this we can understand a bit more. Using CBT is life changing! I hope you can learn more with a coach like me. Feel free to follow me on Instagram or Facebook lifesuccessnz I would like to help you be the person you want to be. Please watch video about CBT below.

 Overcoming grief  I’ve experienced two suicides, both brothers took their lives so.... I understand how suicide affects other people. Not long ago my dad passed away recently and grief is not easy to overcome. We all grieve differently and that is okay. When I received my fathers ashes I felt peace within which was good, it means I have more closure. When my cat passed away it was hard to find a new cat that had a loving side. A year later I found a cat that had that loving side.  Here’s my advice to help you get through grief. Learn to accept the persons passing. Let out how you feel don’t deny your feelings. Use art or other therapy to get through it. Accept change it may feel weird without the person but you need to accept things that have changed. It was their time to go, the universe supports us even when we don’t know it yet. Use CBT known as cognitive behavioural therapy, being mindful of what thoughts you have. Remember the good times you have had with that perso...

 10 ways to add more variety to your morning routine. It’s easy to lose a sense of joy and excitement when life gets repetitive. As much as I love routines, I know I need to switch things up to prevent boredom and lack of motivation. After all, variety in life is important for  avoiding a burnout. In this post, I’m sharing 10 tips to help you get out of a funk and add variety to your routine. Keep reading if you’re looking to switch things up! How To Add Variety To Your Routine Sometimes you have to accept that life is moving more slowly than anticipated, but that doesn’t mean you can’t add some variety at the same time. Life is about tiny little daily joys. Whenever life starts to feel a little stale or boring, here are some tips to help switch things up: 1. Create something without an agenda  Do something for the sake of fun and creativity, rather than for the sake of productivity e.g. paint, knit, doodle, start a bullet journal.  2. Create something WITH an agenda...

Moving on to positive thoughts  Cognitive behavioural therapy known as CBT techniques- identifying, replacing negative thoughts- have been found to be very effective in helping people to think more positively. Acceptance and commitment recognises that when you accept and let go of the negative, unhelpful thoughts, you will let go of the emotions and allow the rational, logical part of your mind start working. - To start thinking more helpful positive thoughts regularly. Instead of getting caught up with your thoughts and struggle with them, just notice them and let them go. Imagine you’re a sheriff in an old western town. You notice an outlaw strolling the street. You don’t challenge him, you simply acknowledge the outlaw and calmly and firmly encourage him to keep walking, right on out of town. You can do the same with negative thoughts those unhelpful thoughts, you simply acknowledge and release them. Instead of challenging the negative thoughts. If they came back you look at the...

What to do when feeling unmotivated Let yourself go through the feeling of being negative for a short time but use CBT cognitive behavioural therapy and then go slowly into being productive by using habits stacking to be motivated to do anything. Don’t be hard on yourself this is common to experience. Often I have these crap days and need to find motivation. Check out my video on the subject. I use an app to help me get motivated when I’m struggling. The app I use currently- google tasks what do you use to help your productivity? I been reading  Atomic Habits by James Clear We all go through a phase of being unmotivated to do the things we set out to do. Tick them off and celebrate that you done it. That means reward yourself. Of course depression doesn’t help as I can speak from experience. One of the simplest ways I’ve learned how to deal with procrastination is to consider how my choices today will affect my future self. In this process be kind to yourself it is too easy to bea...