The strength you didn’t know you had.
We all have a strength we didn't know we had after a traumatic experience or a loss. I know from my own experience in life. Let's look at how we can contain the strength to cope when it happens. Especially when there are more than one traumatic events in life that you can overcome if you choose to do it. You choose this blog to start with and that is a first step in the direction.
What I have learned is that it makes you grow into a stronger and better person in life. Being fearless is the strength you never had until now.
You either go forward or backwards to face your fears you got to confront it. I know from my own experiences.
We all have negative things happen in life, it either makes us grow or we hold ourselves back to learn from the experiences. I had to face my dad’s death which was very difficult to do at the time while under stress and sadness. Then I found the inner strength to set through the days and months these last 3 years. I had the courage to do the hard part was under takers to say my last goodbye to him and honestly that was very hard. I did stand up at his funeral to say my piece and I am proud of myself for doing it. We are not perfect but we grow and learn from these things. I've looked back at my own experiences with strength and be proud of myself for confronting it with courage. There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable but it makes you learn from these things you have experienced. I had to face my dad's death with courage because I know it was my destiny to be a role model to you guys. Music helped me through the hard times, when the going was toughest.
And the question I have for you guys, what is it that helps you through these moments in life?
6 things to consider doing
- The first step is acknowledge
- Write in Journal and be truthful to yourself
- Accept the situation and how you respond to it.
- Past, present and future you got to confront.
- self compassionate
- Do not deny change that you are facing
- Being kind to yourself? When there are times we don’t.
I know it is hard but confronting it with the belief that you can find hope. My song Chill in my vein came to life due my tragic loss of my brother who committed suicide when I was young. Article about me in Wellington library nz.
It's easy to get stuck in resentment because the world is unfair. Resentment results from a judgment of unfairness; you’re not getting the help, consideration, praise, reward, or affection you deserve.
Resentment is, to borrow a phrase from the psychoanalyst Karen Horney, a tyranny of the should:
“Things should be the way I want them to be. They shouldn’t be the way they are.”
Wishing things were not the way they are, instead of improving them, gets us stuck in resentment. What keeps us stuck is justifying resentment by ruminating over all the reasons we’re resentful:
“I have a right to be resentful because she did this, he didn’t do that, and they should have been more considerate…..”
Justifying resentment is like justifying hunger; you never need to do it. But then, some people seem compelled to justify even their hunger: “I’m really hungry; I didn’t have lunch.”
Your resentment is justified, but it’s so unpleasant that you probably don’t want to feel it. Justifying resentment strengthens and prolongs what you don’t want. Being resentful won't help us overcome a trauma like abuse.
There’s a neurological explanation for this. Repeated focus forms mental habits. Justifying resentment strengthens the neural connections underlying it. It becomes automatic, the default judgment of the brain; we expect unfairness and look for signs of it. Resentful people complain and criticize out of habit.
“These experiences will make you stronger and grow as a person.”
What someone has written about Lori 👇
TAKING THE FIRST STEP – A MASSIVE ACTION TOWARDS CHANGE
I made a decision that would change my life forever: I attended Date With myself where I learned to identify all the limiting beliefs that had been holding me back. I realized I have been telling myself that I couldn’t be successful without a man in my life, but by attending to my self help journey, I learned I could change my story and started finding my inner strength. After so many setbacks, it was encouraging to be reminded that I still had my own sense of well-being. Feeling more inspired than I had in years, and took the next step to achieve real transformation in my life and started working with a professional life coach online.Lori and her coach immediately clicked. Her coach knew where Lori was at in her life and where she wanted to be, and helped her to bridge the gap between the two.
FINDING INNER STRENGTH IN TRAGEDY
The day before she was set to arrive from school surprise her father came to pick her up Lori's mother unexpectedly with police knowing Lori's brother had died. It's important to be honest with your children about a tragic loss like suicide.
It took Lori years to find coaching to help herself. Coaching helped her get through the enormous pain of losing her brother. Although there were many dark times ahead, Lori's Results Coach helped her to stay motivated, even when things seemed incredibly hard.
If I started doubting myself, I would find resources. There was with a gift, a strategy, a tip, a technique, a realization, an insight – something that would help me to say, ‘You know what? I really am strong.’” That's where Chill in my vein song came to life.
Dealing with the death of her sibling seemed impossible at first. By remaining positive and productive, Lori was able to combat the immense grief she felt and work toward her dreams. Because her brother was a creative soul who loved art and music. Since originally working with other people, over the course of 12 years, Lori released her vinyl record has doubled her followers. Working with her coach and finding her inner strength enabled Lori to do what she loves. And Lori got her certificate in life coaching.
ACHIEVING DREAMS WITH INNER STRENGTH
Now, Lori is working on her coaching to build an action plan that will help her double her mission to help you. She went from devastating loss to owner of a blog and podcast. Lori is volunteering her dream job – and experiencing incredible success. She still regularly checks in with her coach and credits their relationship for much of her progress.
Lori describes working as a online life coach. The process was almost entirely customizable. “They don’t tell you what to dream – they tell you how to get there,” said Lori
Lori's coach was committed to seeing Lori succeed, helping her to identify ways to reach her goals and knock down any roadblocks in her way. During times of extreme stress and burnout, Lori's coach encouraged her to take down-time to properly heal and recharge before diving back into her volunteer mission aspirations.
For Lori, the Results Coaching process was about not only finding inner strength and becoming the person she wanted to be, but creating a “sustainable life change that leads to lasting success.”
Inner strength looks different for everyone. Lori had always been a strong person, but it took hitting her personal rock bottom to find the success she was truly capable of. She was able to see herself as a complete person – she knew she no longer needed a romantic partner to support her and she could get through intense moments of pain and come out on the other side all right. By finding her inner strength, and working with other Coaches who helped her channel her authentic goals and vision, Lori feels that she’s not only fulfilled with her own life, but she’s able to help others now, too, through her coaching.
Check out this video below to accept your past self👇
Are you ready to find your inner strength?
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