Lifesuccessnz personal development

How many of us can say that we have a healthy relationship with technology? Though we try to convince ourselves that technology doesn’t rule our lives, the truth is that it plays a huge part in our daily routines. #Maketime on Instagram If you are following the challenge. A lot of people are doing detox challenge but I have coaching business to keep up to date with but I limit my time on social media.  Here are 7 tips for you 1. From the moment you wake up in the morning prevent going on social media 2.  putting your phone on do not disturb mode  even for just an hour is okay 3. Stay away from the phone while with family or friends I know it hard trust me it will be a life changer 4. Set a time to scroll on social media  5.  try keeping your phone out of plain sight. I like to hide my phone behind my laptop screen or in my bag when I’m working so I kind of forget about it unless my dad calls.  6. Go for a walk without your phone 7. Encourage others to do th...

We all go through Procrastination, so what holds us back? What blocks you from engaging in productive actions? Poor self discipline is an unsurprising human trait as 'avoiding a difficult situy seems like the most common thing'. Procrastination is often a behavioral way of protecting yourself from experiencing unpleasant emotional state. If you decide to stay in a rut rather than attempt to leave it.  Causes of Procrastination 1. Anxiety  2. Low frustration tolerance 3. Rebellion - this is used as a way to express your anger towards others by delaying important tasks. Procrastination has been associated with depression, guilt, low moods, anxiety, and low self-esteem. As a result Procrastination probably account for much of why many of us never full fill our potential. So, putting things off won't help us in the long term. I know hard to be motivated daily even I go through that but having something to get up for each day helps a lot. So find what works for you and make it a...

You may not see your life in a positive prospective right now, but I can tell you that it will improve. I doubt that you say! Well in my eyes you will become a strong person because of the negative experience you went through that can be bullying behavior from other people at university or college high school, it not okay to be bullied but I know it will make you a stronger person within.  I know what it feels like to be bullied for 3 years I was bullied by my ex, I made sure my mental state wasn't negative but it was not easy to catch the person in the act and press charges through police. There is always hope no matter what experience of bullying you are going through, how you respond is up to you to decide positive or negative thoughts and emotions. I worked my way up to think positive about my experience and know I am a stronger person now than I was many years ago. Hope and positive thoughts is what you need plus support of positive people around you. No matter what these peop...

Over coming depression with positive actions  Depression can range from mild to servere and involves the theme of suicide. I’ve experienced a loss myself. Two tragic loses of my brothers suicides.  Self devaluation frequently follows a loss for example when my ex left the relationship used me I no longer felt valued as a woman should feel. When people are depressed they usually withdraw from activities and into themselves. However, the negative content of a depressed person's thinking has called the congitive triad of depression you have negative view of the world and towards yourself for example "everything is against me" 'i'll never get over depression'.  Accompany of loss of pleasure, interest, libido, appetite, over eating, poor motivation, poor sleep pattern, suicidal thoughts. I have identified these with 1.  Self blame 2.  Self pity - feeling sorry for yourself 3.  Other pity - feeling sorry for others Some events like the death of a loved one that j...

Most important part in the chain of emotional causation has been left out yourself! In order to experience an emotional reaction to an event, you first have to evaluate the personal experience of that event.  A - activating event: end of relationship  B - beliefs or thoughts: without her, I'm worthless without him or her  C - emotional and behavioral consequences: depression and withdraw from social activities You may say that A caused C when really in CBT language this is called A-C thinking (events cause our emotions). This viewpoint overlooks individual variations of the same event which is not uncommon. Not everyone feels depressed about the end of a relationship one person is anxious about coping alone, another is angry which is normal. In order to understand C you need to focus on B not A this is called B-C thinking our beliefs and thoughts at B ultimately determine how you feel at C. To choose one's attitude in any given situation or circumstances to cope with adve...

Trust me it was hard to overcome this experience it can be a challenge. Why it is Important Not to Let Other People's Opinion's get to You? Well I know from my own experience,  While it is always nice to have supportive people in our lives that we can go to for tough decisions and advice. It is important to remember that their opinions or advice cannot be the ultimate deciding factor. Let us look at 5 reasons you should take other people's opinions lightly:  1. They do not know what is best for you. Ultimately no one knows what is best for you and your circumstances, other than you! For example, your older siblings may believe going to University is what is best for you, but you know that is not what you want right now, you want to travel. They believe getting education is best for you because they obviously care about you, and want you to have a great life. But, you know now is not the time for University, and you want to explore and discover yourself more before set...

Witness your feeling. Conditioning trains you to feel the same way over and over every time you meet the same situation. This is frustrating because as soon as the old response rises, you become tangled in it. What you need is a clear place, the place of witnessing. Witnessing means that you are present with your emotion but not being used by it. The best way to witness is to locate where these thoughts are coming from, this means these thoughts are negative they need to be reconstructed in order to become positive.  Witnessing the thought helps us understand what is negative and what is positive. Let's see if we can change our thoughts pattern by using CBT congitive behavioral therapy known in couching and learn how to change these thoughts from negativity to positive. Witness your feelings are they positive or negative? If they negative then you need to do CBT congitive behavioral therapy changes in order to be released from those negative thoughts and emotions. Try it and witnes...